5 Ways For Runners To Deal With Frustration

5 Ways For Runners To Deal With Frustration

Training for races is not always fun. Let’s face it, we all as runners, have different ways to deal with frustration.

There are often times it is boring, extremely challenging and you often wonder if you will ever get into great shape.

How many times have you taken a few weeks off or, like me, you have taken off a few months thanks to a military deployment and think you’ll never get back into race shape?.

You think back to runs you have done in the past when you were on cloud nine, when every step was effortless.

Have you ever done your long runs where everything seemed like you were on autopilot?

In comparison, how have you felt when you have taken a long break from competitive racing?  How has your mindset changed? Do you question yourself more often when you are unfit then when you are in great shape?

If this has happened to you, you are not alone. The truth of the matter is, there are far too many of us who waste precious mental energy trying to rush the process.

What I learned most from Lisa Rainsberger, my former coach and last American female to win the Boston Marathon, was simply, let go of the stress and handle what you have control of.

There is no sense in making yourself a miserable wreck in the early stages of training when if your are just patient the fitness you once had will return.

There are a few ways to deal with frustration with early training buildup that can help you significantly.

1. Let go of those things in your life that have you have no outside control of. Worry is number one. The sooner you let go of this the better.

You were once doing your runs at 7.30 pace and now your struggling to hit 9.00 pace. Early on, this should be no surprise. It certainly doesn’t mean you will not get back to where you once were.

2. Unwaver in your focus. In the magical power of focus, Leo Babauta states,

If you can’t maintain your focus, you won’t achieve the goal, unless it’s such an easy goal that it would have happened anyway. It’s that simple.

 

3. Talk to friends who have been where you currently are. Sometimes just talking with another person can bring you back into balance.

A kind word from a friend can go a long way and talking your frustrations over with people who care about what you do as an athlete will give back so much to your mental state.

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4. Stay positive. It is very easy to get down on yourself early on in your training when every run seems to be a chore.

Know nothing happens overnight and in just a few short weeks you will gain from every run you put in.

Supercompensation will occur but you have to maintain positivity through the tough stages of early training.

5. Think about your goals. What is it you want to accomplish? Are you wanting to hit a specific goal time in a race?

What are some of the things you can do in training to bring that to fruition? Is dropping to a particular weight your goal?

Always think and envision how you will feel, how strong you will be, how much happier a person you will become by the simple fact that you put all your heart and attention to the goal in mind, that you were in control of that early stage frustration.

You didn’t let it get the best of you and cause you to quit before all the physiological adaptations occurred. You must always be resolute, never waver in your pursuit.

This is so utterly important.

I cannot state this fact enough. It has helped me so many times over the years in my own training, especially in those first few weeks of build up when I feel like I can barely get through an 8-mile run.

You have to constantly be envisioning your goals and dreams. Let them challenge you, hold you accountable to get out the door when you don’t want to.

If you can, find a group in your town or city that you can join. Sometimes just having another person who is trying to do something in the sport that you want to achieve can pay huge dividends down the road.

I was fortunate in that I had those types of athletes to train with when I was a member of the Army World Class Athlete Program in Colorado Springs.

training with Olympian and 2.11 marathoner, MAJ Dan Brown and 2.22 marathoner, SSG Troy Harrison in Colorado Springs

There were workouts I did there that I simply I would have had a much harder time of achieving had I trained alone.

Never waver early on. I know it is tough, but know this, physiological adaptations always occur. The great thing is fitness comes back relatively quick despite longer breaks from training.

You need some down time from hard training and racing anyway to rejuvenate yourself. Stay focused, don’t lose hope, always know your success and happiness are things in your control at all times.

If you are seeking a coach and want to try a different method of training send me a message or pick from one of my training plans

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I am no phenom, just an ordinary guy who was looking to improve my running. In the marathon, I went from 4:40 to 3:36 and then to 3:27, a Boston Marathon qualifying time for my age group in less than two years of running. Much of this success can be attributed to having a lot of heart and dedication.

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Yesterday morning, I ran 2:00:01 on largely the race route (with 1 more uphill than the actual race route so I know the intensity of my run has been above what is needed on the race day to achieve my goal)This is the first plan that actually prescribes what I always believed deep down inside.

That the faster you run and the more time that you extend that pace, the more likely you are to achieve race day goals! Every other training plan, without exception, does not recommend running at or below race day pace. And I couldn’t understand for the life of me how I would morph into a faster person on race day miraculously…. I now feel vindicated!I love your writings on motivation, goal setting, the power of positive thinking and quality preparation.

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I won’t take up much of your time but I wanted to say thank you very much for inspiring me to run and achieve my dreams.
I ran Rotterdam April 14th which was a disaster for me. I stopped mile 23 with a really bad pain in my foot, calf. I was injured going in and it but it wasn’t my day. After 4 months of solid training I was very disappointed. I finished though and received a wonderful medal. I walked the last 3 miles and it took me 3.54 min to cross the line. A great time but not what I was looking for. It’s true I was a bit down but I remember reading your blog posts and advice and you always talk about bad races but more importantly getting back up and learning from it. I took that advice on board very quickly as I had a marathon two weeks later in Dusseldorf April 28th. 
Nathan it worked for me and I achieve my target of running a sub2.50 – I just about done it and ran 2:49:56. I knocked almost 3 minutes off my PB and I done this by following your advice of race pace miles and when to do them and when not to do them. It was also that you inspire us to dream big, to have utter belief and put the work in. 

I started to read your blog posts last summer and since that time I have improved gradually with my marathons times going from a 3.10, 2:53 to 2:49 in the space of 8 months. Thank you again Nathan for everything. I am telling you this because I have often been running and finding it hard and I would think what Nathan would say, what he would advise. In a sense you’re our coach who motivates us and helps us realise our potential. 
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